[sleepy2lazy]

Heh. After reading all this shit, I think your just another one of them pussy whooped boys. I don't know you so I maybe wrong.

If I were you, and this situation came up, I would live my day doing my own things and carry on until the restraining order is up. When its up, I'd talk to her again. We'd date. Go out, hangout, do whatever. But i'd still be doing whatever I'm doing. Being devoted to one woman, doesn't mean your entire world revolves around her. Seeing as your pretty worked up about the restraining order, your world does revolve around her.

Investing 2 years in her doesn't mean that you should keep going with an investment. If it gets sour, toss it. Time length is pointless with intangible objects. But, if you do plan to stick with her, don't marry her until your at least 23-24 like others said. Times change. If you or her plan to go to college, that can change you two as well.

Restraining orders are nothing. In the asian community, ever hear of forced marriages? For head over heels people, this kinda shit happens alot. I was in this kinda situation 3 years ago, when I was 18, with this chick I was dating for about 2 years. I took her home after a movie, so it was around 10pm she got home., I was forced to go into their house and have a "talk" with her rents. Given a choice of marriage, or leaving it, and I said no and left. Looking back, I'm happy that I didn't take it.

Love comes and goes, its fickle. I wouldn't bust my ass for a woman unless she truly loves me. And that ain't gonna happen unless she takes the final step and marries me. Why? Because the stress that can happen during the dating stages aren't really necessary in life. Be precautious. Live it, love it, but don't submit to it unless your ass spends 1k+ on a stupid little ring to put on her finger, then giving her your checking account to buy everything else she wants.